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If you are anything like me, you’ve probably thought (cough…OBSESSED…cough) at some point (or maybe DAILY if you were ADVANCED like me🙃) about needing to be the ALL-KNOWING EXPERT in order to be successful…

Like you needed to have some Nobel Prize-winning, research-backed, proprietary system that you can be KNOWN FOR if you’re ever going to STAND OUT among all of the OTHER people DOING what you DO…

(I definitely wasn’t the ONLY one who believed that, right?)

It wasn’t until I was WILLING to SHIFT – by even 5% – OUT of my WORTHINESS-SEEKING EGO and into LOVING SERVICE that I had a HUGE realization about where the REAL power of my work exists – and HERE is what I discovered…

The way to be of REAL value and to create MASSIVE impact with our work is to stop trying to be REVOLUTIONARY and instead focus on being EVOLUTIONARY…

When we obsess over being REVOLUTIONARY we end up getting weighed down by the (self-imposed) PRESSURE of having to create something totally UNIQUE in order to make an impact…

EVOLUTIONARY coaches and teachers recognize instead that their POWER comes from sharing INCREMENTAL improvements and insights of the lessons they have learned through their OWN personal journey or the journey they go on with their clients…

When we are EVOLUTIONARY, we really GET that the value of our work doesn’t come from providing “never-heard-before” INFORMATION, but instead by using our own TRANSFORMATION as the BACKDROP and ROADMAP for what’s possible for others…

When we drop the “REVOLUTIONARY” obsession and start committing to SHOWING UP, sharing OUR experiences, and what WE’VE learned in a way that resonates with OUR tribe, we have the foundations for a fully-aligned “Competition-Proof” Business!

What have you been putting off creating and sharing with the world because you think it isn’t REVOLUTIONARY enough?

What if instead, you took the idea that your heart is calling you to talk about and simply focused on sharing YOUR experience and how YOU have EVOLVED as a result of practicing it?

Sometimes CIRCUMSTANCES TOTALLY RUIN Your Plans!

But, I’m curious…Have you ever looked at the root of the word CIRCUMSTANCE before?

It comes from the Latin circum, meaning “around,” and stare, which means “stand.”

The origin of circumstance is literally to “stand around.”

Letting all of the CIRCUMSTANCES that surround us dictate our happiness or lack thereof?

When we are PRISONERS of circumstance, we are in fact making the CHOICE to stand around…

We STAND AROUND waiting for someone to save the day…

To make something happen for us…

To give us the answers…

To change the environment or the players or the ENTIRE GAME!

Believe me, I know this mode well, it was my DEFAULT for the first 30 years of my life (don’t be jealous, I was a PRO Prisoner)!

There is no intentionality or purpose when we are JUST standing around.

There is only passivity, disappointments and hope – not to be confused with OPTIMISM, which is actually a VERY active way of being.

“I hope that either my job becomes less demanding or my family becomes okay with not seeing me as often.”

“I trust that one day my work will speak for itself and my ideal clients will magically appear.”

“I pray that the perfect partner effortlessly falls in my lap, and we live happily ever after!”

And when all of those HOPES become our beliefs, the only thing left to lean on is…

YOU guessed it…CIRCUMSTANCE!

But there is another way!

The PRISON BREAK that leads to the way of the SELF-LEADER!

The MOMENT-BY-MOMENT choice to INTENTIONALLY LIVE by a mantra I wrote when I started this journey: “CREATIVITY IS GREATER THAN CIRCUMSTANCE”…

Or in other words, there is NO circumstance that can ever stand up to the human spirit when it is full of enthusiasm, creativity, possibilities and joy!

We are all born with an equal ability to BE that…

The difference is whether we CHOOSE to exercise it or not…

So what’ll it be?

“Standing Around” on the sidelines?

Or “Playing the Game” on the field?

What do I mean when I say I help coaches create a “Competition-PROOF” business?

Isn’t that UNREASONABLE given the number of coaches, online educators, business mentors, and transformational speakers out there?

Maybe…but instead of answering THAT question, I have a different question for YOU…

Have you ever been in love?

I mean like head over heels, IN LOOOVE!!!

I’m talking, can’t stop thinking about someone LOVE…

Where every minute away from them feels like an hour…

Where a single word from their lips can instantly transform your day from BS to bliss…

Where you look at them and are in awe of just how beautiful or handsome or sexy or amazing they are?

The funny thing is that if we remove the emotions and objectively look around, there are people that are JUST as beautiful or handsome or sexy or amazing as ‘that person’ all around you…

In fact, at least 5 such people probably cross your path every single day – whether strangers, acquaintances or friends…

And yet it’s almost as if, to YOU at least, they don’t exist…you just DON’T SEE THEM…

Because the reasons you are in love with the person you are in love with go beyond a surface-level “checklist” of qualities…

It’s a deeper connection…and you know EXACTLY what I mean!

It’s an energetic, FEELING state that magnetizes you to someone…

Well, that same “PHENOMENON” applies in our businesses. WE can be THAT person for OUR people! OUR TRIBE!

And just like love in a personal relationship, the business version of this ‘LOVE CONNECTION’ is not to be manufactured or manipulated…

It’s the natural by-product of people in full alignment whose experiences of life are enhanced by being in each others!

THAT level of relevance, resonance, and relationship is at the CORE of a truly COMPETITION-PROOF business…

Is this the kind of business and impact YOU want to create?

If so, you DEFINITELY wanna join my FREE Facebook Tribe where I give you the “BEHIND THE SCENES” of me building MY Competition-Proof Biz while helping YOU do the same!

Click here to join the group today!

An entrepreneur I met with the other day told me he felt like he was RUNNING OUT OF TIME in growing his coaching business…

He’s ambitious, talented, impatient as hell, and wants to make a difference…(sound familiar? – *** invites you to look in the mirror ***)

I know this feeling well…

It’s a heavy feeling that primarily comes from us comparing our chapter 1 with someone else’s chapter 20…

So I want to share with you a simple exercise I did with him to find out if, in fact, you ARE running out of time…

All you have to do is ask yourself this question…

“HOW LONG DO I PLAN ON DOING ‘THIS THING’?”

Because the TRUTH is you MIGHT be running out of time…

If you are taking an exam and there are 3 minutes left until “pencils down”, you ARE running out of time…

If you get lost in a convo with a friend and your two-hour parking meter is about to expire, you ARE running out of time…

If your milk jug’s “best used by” date was 4 days ago, you are DEFINITELY running out of time!

BUT if you are building something that matters…

If you are creating something that is BIGGER than any single outcome…

If you are committing the next 1, 5, 10, 20 years or more to SOME form of whatever it is you are doing now…

Then TIME is ALL you have…

Because the more messy and imperfect ACTION you are taking, the more time you GET…

The more you USE time (creatively, intentionally) instead of being USED by it (worry, anxiety, procrastination), the more time you are REWARDED with…

When you are in THAT space of purposeful, consistent action (***FLOW***), you shift from LINEAR TIME to a feeling of TIMELESSNESS…

SO…How long do YOU plan on doing whatever it is you are doing now?

If it’s only for the next day, week or month, then you might be running out of time.

But if your answer is, “I don’t see a time when I WON’T be doing SOMETHING like this!”…

Then, put your head down and get back to work (play)!

TIME is like oxygen and, as long as you are USING your “lungs” (and not holding your breath), you’ve got access to all that you could possibly need!

Listen, I am by NO means an expert in health or fitness…I’m still lobbying the government to include bacon as its own food group…

BUT any trainer will tell you that you can’t eat junk all the time…

And THEN try to OVERCOMPENSATE by obsessively working out…

You will never end up on the POSITIVE side of that equation…

Because the FOUNDATION; the BASE upon which we build healthy bodies must be a purposeful focus!

I’ve found that the SAME thing applies to entrepreneurship, marketing and business growth…

You can’t “OUT SPEND” a crappy service or product by throwing a ton of MONEY into MARKETING it…

Sure, having a crazy ad spend may give you a spike in visibility and maybe even some initial sales…

But no amount of PR or publicity or press or popularity will create a SUSTAINABLE business that ACTUALLY makes a difference…

No increase in followers, fans or any other VANITY METRICS that we tend to obsess over will create a LEGACY of impact…

UNLESS you are ALSO doing the work (or PLAY!) on you AND on your service to make it WORLD CLASS first!

Instead of focusing on getting MORE PEOPLE, direct your attention on getting MORE RESULTS for the people who are already in your world…

PRACTICE your craft, GROW your skills, ASTONISH your clients (AND prospective clients), and THEN focus on scaling THAT impact!

Flexing THOSE muscles is what REALLY makes the difference and will create a SUSTAINABLE, PROFITABLE business far easier than trying to use money to cover up for junk!

Imagine for a minute that in a moment of total impulsiveness…

You were watching some tech TV show that was advertising windshield wipers that cost $10k…

That were developed by the most BRILLIANT minds in the world…

A collaboration between the best engineers and designers at SpaceX, MIT, and Apple…

You pull out your credit card (thank goodness you just paid off the balance from the new couch you just bought)…

Head over to the website and BUY A SET of these INSANELY INNOVATIVE wiper blades!

Thank goodness for Amazon Prime, they arrive via drone 7 minutes later and you promptly run outside and install them on your car…

Now think about this for a second…

Given that you just spent the equivalent of 6 months of most people’s rent on these windshield wipers AND now that they are on your car…

Do you hope that the next time you go for a drive, you encounter a BRIGHT SUNNY DAY???

OF COURSE NOT!

Hell, you would probably PRAY for a TORRENTIAL DOWNPOUR; the likes of which haven’t been seen since the flood that led to the creation of Noah’s Ark!

Why? Because you KNOW what these wipers are MADE OF and you wanna see JUST how well they perform! It excites you to find out!

The same is true for US! For our own possibilities and capabilities…

When we release this ridiculous belief that life should be easy, that our preferences should always be met, that we may not be built to handle the challenges before us…

We start to see that WE WERE BUILT FOR THIS!

We start PLAYING the game of LIFE and instead of wishing for an uneventful, unremarkable life devoid of obstacles…

We take a step back, look at the INSANELY INNOVATIVE mind and creativity we possess and say, “Let’s see what this puppy can do!”

LOOK FORWARD TO BEING TESTED! YOU were built for this!

Is there something you are excited (or scared) to get started on because you fear that you don’t have what it takes? That maybe you aren’t cut out for it? Or that you might fail?

I’ve heard some version of that from dozens of people over the years that I’ve been coaching and mentoring professionally…

And because I am such a MASTERFUL coach who is focused on people being fully LIT UP about life and creating what they want, I of course…

AGREE WITH THEM!

YES, you read that right! When a client tells me they “DON’T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES” to start or grow their business, be more visible and confident in sharing their message, bring more of their authentic selves into the work they do…

I agree that THEY absolutely do NOT have what it takes…at least not this VERSION of them…

But there 💯% IS a version of them that can!

And this is not about “BECOMING” someone or something they have never been before…

Because what I’m saying is that they have already BEEN that person in some other context or situation in their lives!

They DID have what it took…they DID have confidence…they DID express themselves authentically at SOME point in their lives…

Maybe they got through a difficult educational program or got selected for a highly in-demand job position…maybe they stood up for something they believed in when they weren’t sure they would have support…maybe they sang and danced with all of their heart and soul when they were a kid…

No matter what it is, all of those things are PROOF that the abilities they think are not available to “them” are simply not available to this VERSION of “them”…

My job…my JOY is to help them see how all of those mindsets, skillsets and ways of BEING and DOING are both PORTABLE and TRANSFERABLE…

Not only accessible and useful in those OTHER situations, but able to be picked up and transferred to this NEW challenge or opportunity in front of them!

What do YOU think you aren’t CUT OUT FOR and where can you find the PROOF that “YOU” absolutely are IF you were to tap into the same qualities you used to be successful in the past?

Apps like Tinder and Bumble have figured out something that eluded me for so long.

And that is that something (a person’s profile in the case of the apps) can appear in my life and I can choose in that moment how SERIOUSLY or how CASUALLY I will engage with that profile by simply swiping one way or the other.

What I learned from that is that my stress, overwhelm or feelings of fear are NOT the problem.

In fact, I’ve come to see (whenever I am OPEN to the TRUTH) that it’s never my thoughts that are the problem.

But simply that I have chosen to have a SERIOUS relationship WITH those thoughts.

My experience has proven to me time and time again, that the more CASUAL of a relationship I have with them, the better my experience OF them becomes.

What is one thing you are trying to “OVERCOME” right now?

Maybe its a feeling of sadness for something that didn’t work out the way you wanted it to…

Fear of uncertainty of your future…

Overwhelm with all that you have on your plate…

Self-judgment that you aren’t doing “enough” or that it’s taking too long…

Now, what if instead of trying to overcome or let go of that feeling, you just practiced having a more CASUAL relationship with it?

This isn’t about ignoring it or lying to yourself, either.

It is about relaxing any SERIOUSNESS we are placing on it so that it can EXIST in our present experience without having any significant impact on how we live our lives.

I used to think I hated SELLING…

And then I finally realized, I just hated RUSHING relationships…

When I release the scarcity energy that makes me believe I need to “close a deal” or have the perfect elevator pitch to get someone to “BUY NOW”, I can truly slow down and serve…

I can be interesTED instead of interesTING…

AND I am far more likely to not only form a real connection with the person in front of me but also be far more certain as to whether I may be able to help them…

Think of ONE person you would really love to deepen your connection with (WITHOUT any attachment to “moving anything forward”) and send them some love!

Your PASSION may be your PITFALL…

Wait…what I mean is that your DESIRE to always FEEL PASSIONATE about your work is your PITFALL…

Nope, that’s still not it. What I mean is that your BELIEF that your WORK should bring passion TO you is your PITFALL…

Yeah, that feels right…

If I waited to FEEL PASSIONATE about everything I did IN and ON my business (do you know the difference between those by the way) before I did it, then I would be…

Well, I would be ME the first year that I was STRUGGLING to build my coaching practice…

I had been so brainwashed by the “anti-hustle”, “all flow, all ease, all the time” messages out there, that I believed anything that didn’t feel COMPLETELY natural, that didn’t LIGHT ME UP, and that didn’t make me feel like I was floating in a blissed out, zen-ified, state of flow and euphoria – was something I shouldn’t be doing…

And in response…well, I would just sit there…

Using every justification and rationalization I could to do busy work that felt like productivity (something I now called FAUXductivity; or FAKE productivity) in order to avoid any feelings that my work was…uh…WORK!

What really shifted this for me was realizing that we can take a step back and, from a position of creative Self-Leadership ask ourselves…

“What would it look like if I brought the passion TO the work I’m doing instead of expecting it to be BESTOWED UPON Me BY the work I’m doing?”

The more I have practiced this, the simpler it has become to stay in consistent, purposeful action that isn’t reliant upon magic, motivation or a muse.