Apps like Tinder and Bumble have figured out something that eluded me for so long.
And that is that something (a person’s profile in the case of the apps) can appear in my life and I can choose in that moment how SERIOUSLY or how CASUALLY I will engage with that profile by simply swiping one way or the other.
What I learned from that is that my stress, overwhelm or feelings of fear are NOT the problem.
In fact, I’ve come to see (whenever I am OPEN to the TRUTH) that it’s never my thoughts that are the problem.
But simply that I have chosen to have a SERIOUS relationship WITH those thoughts.
My experience has proven to me time and time again, that the more CASUAL of a relationship I have with them, the better my experience OF them becomes.
What is one thing you are trying to “OVERCOME” right now?
Maybe its a feeling of sadness for something that didn’t work out the way you wanted it to…
Fear of uncertainty of your future…
Overwhelm with all that you have on your plate…
Self-judgment that you aren’t doing “enough” or that it’s taking too long…
Now, what if instead of trying to overcome or let go of that feeling, you just practiced having a more CASUAL relationship with it?
This isn’t about ignoring it or lying to yourself, either.
It is about relaxing any SERIOUSNESS we are placing on it so that it can EXIST in our present experience without having any significant impact on how we live our lives.